Webinars, Past Present and Future

[YGB]

The Webinar was amazing. I will post it as soon as I get a chance.

[YGB]

Torah Im Derech Eretz Webinar: Building TIDE Chinuch from the Home

[YGB]

Meeting Purpose

Discuss how to implement Torah im Derech Eretz (TIDE) principles in the home.

Key Takeaways

• TIDE’s core principle is integration, not isolation. It’s a mission statement for active involvement in the world, contrasting with the isolationist model prevalent in some communities.

• The home is the primary TIDE institution. Parents must model values like truthfulness and respect, as schools cannot teach these virtues.

• Parents must counter school messages that conflict with Torah values. Use Torah sources to show children why a message is wrong, teaching them to discriminate between truth and falsehood without undermining a teacher’s authority.

• Engage with the secular world as a teaching opportunity. Use examples of non-Jewish goodness to demonstrate the universal power of Torah’s sparks and the concept of Tzelem Elokim (the divine image).

Topics

The Problem: A TIDE Institutional Gap

• No formal institution perfectly embodies TIDE ideals.

• The goal is to reintroduce and enhance TIDE principles to address contemporary community challenges.

• This discussion focuses on applying TIDE in the home, a responsibility that persists regardless of school environment.

TIDE’s Core Principle: Integration vs. Isolation

• Integration: Active involvement in the world is essential to the Torah Jew’s mission.

• Isolation: Retreating into a “cozy ghetto” is not a legitimate Torah model.

• Historical Context: Rav Hirsch formalized integration into a mission statement, whereas previous patterns of life were often circumstantial.

• Modern Relevance: This principle is critical in Eretz Yisrael, where isolationist chinuch models have demonstrably failed.

Practical Application: What Parents Can Do

• Exposure: Intentionally expose children to diverse people and ideas.

  • Non-Jews: To foster respect and counter contempt.

  • Non-Religious Jews: To avoid reductionist views of others.

  • Ideas: Jewish history (beyond simple biographies), general wisdom (e.g., public libraries), and current events.

• Critical Thinking: Encourage curiosity and the ability to discriminate between values.

  • Goal: Challenge children to think, question, and defend Yiddishkeit, avoiding the “assembly line” production of unthinking automatons.

• Communication: Develop strong oral and written skills.

  • Rationale: Effective communication is necessary to convey the beauty of Torah to the world.

The Home as the Primary Institution

• Hirsch’s View: The home is the sole source for teaching virtues like truthfulness, respect for law, and altruism.

• Parental Responsibility: Parents must model these values directly.

  • Example: Avoid small dishonesties (e.g., lying about a child’s age for a discount).

• Shabbos Table: Use it as a tool for value-driven discussion, not just gossip.

  • Focus: Inspire children with the meaning of being an Or LaGoyim (a light unto the nations).

  • Method: Foster open, robust debate on important topics.

Countering Conflicting School Messages

• The Challenge: Schools may teach non-Torah values (e.g., bittul Torah, ethnic jokes).

• The Solution: Use Torah sources to show children why a message is wrong.

  • Rationale: The value of Toras Emes (Torah’s truth) overrides the value of Yiras Av (respect for a father/teacher) when there is a clear conflict with Torah law.

  • Method: Frame it as “the Torah says otherwise,” not as an argument against the teacher.

• The Principle: “Torah is Torah’s emes, and you can’t build Torah’s emes with sheker (falsehood).”

Navigating Secular Society

• The Question: How to teach respect for people without adopting opposing secular values?

• The Answer: This is the essence of havdalah (distinction).

  • Framework: Use Rav Yehudah Levy’s Khuzari model:

    1. Be a Mensch: Achieve basic human decency.

    2. Be a Kadosh: Strive for holiness.

  • Application: Secular society can produce menschen but not kedoshim. We are addicted to kedusha.

• Teaching Opportunities:

  • Non-Jewish Goodness: Use examples (e.g., a Salvation Army volunteer) to show the universal power of Torah’s sparks and Tzelem Elokim.

  • Connecting: Find ways to connect respectfully with non-Jews, as Rav Yaakov Kamenevsky did.

  • Personal Experience: Gershon Seif’s chaplaincy work showed him that “these are my people,” shifting his perspective from “us vs. them.”

Next Steps

• Yosef Gavriel Bechhofer: Post the webinar recording on the blog and encourage continued discussion on the WhatsApp group and Discourse site.

• All Participants: Continue the conversation on the designated platforms to expand and apply these TIDE principles.

[YGB]

[RA_Alpert]

Outstanding webinar. Trying to attach link….

[RA_Alpert]

[YGB]

Rochel Alpert’s powerpoint

[YGB]

Torah Im Derech Eretz Webinar: TIDE For Outreach and Inreach

Webinar on YouTube.